Image is one of the most beautiful things that we possess. When we look at ourselves we see our history and everything that we carry with us. When we allow people to truly see us, we open ourselves up to a world of self-acceptance and acknowledgement. I have found that when people look at us they usually don’t see what we see. When we surround ourselves with positive and supportive people they see our beauty, our light, and our aliveness. They don’t have the history to have piled up years of dissatisfaction and judgment. From what I have found, people can see us with a clarity that we don’t have for ourselves. Those that look at us, see what is really there, they notice our smiles, laughter, and even our pain and fears. However, all of this can be acknowledged with clarity and curiosity. It is important to notice the difference with how we see the people around us and with how we see ourselves. We are very open to the beauty in other people, but often we don’t see it in ourselves. When we look at people with this spark of openness and clarity we develop something that is waiting to be integrated within ourselves.
The only way to see ourselves fully is through curiosity: the ability to feel our judgments, dissatisfactions, and critiques. When we constantly try to fix our perceived flaws we are attempting to create resolution to feeling. Meaning we are trying to fix ourselves in order to feel secure and confident. Healing comes when we begin to take the external sight that we give to others and place it back on ourselves. We start to see ourselves from that same place of curiosity and acceptance. We truly feel and allow what is there as if we were seeing it in a person that we love. That care and attention is always what we have been looking for. It is an unconditional way of seeing ourselves. We have so much care for the people around us; if they told us that they did not like their body, we would jump in instantly and tell them how beautiful they are. However, this is not what they need and it is not what we need for ourselves. What we really need is a crystal clear vision and openness to what we are experiencing and what we are feeling, to start seeing our judgments from a space of love rather than a place of control; allowing movement rather than trying to patch up insecurity. When we allow movement, we acknowledge internally our feelings of dissatisfaction. We see that it is present and causes thoughts of low self-esteem. Allowing our feelings to be there is a way of reconnecting back to the cause of insecurity. We can then look at our feelings and be curious without the need to change our thoughts, but instead touching and allowing the part of us that is insecure. When we do this, we look at ourselves in alignment with what is present. We are actually seeing what is really there and placing the curiosity and love on ourselves. We are saying to ourselves that you do not need to change in order to fit or be accepted. By looking deeply at insecurity we send a strong message to ourselves that we are loved and received the way that we are. No one can do this for us, and no matter how many times someone says that we are beautiful we won’t believe it until we are able to look inside and allow the movement of insecurity. Then when someone tells us that we are beautiful we will be in alignment with it, because we have allowed what keeps us separate from beauty to be healed. There is nothing internally that keeps us separate from that statement. Unconditional love is seeing without our mental labels, acknowledging the way that it truly is, and it is in alignment with the present moment. When we look at every part of ourselves without a label, we apply the love and appreciation that we have for other people’s images back to ourselves. From this space we see ourselves with openness and we also see life and everything around us from this place. It is an opportunity to embrace image from curiosity and clarity.
If you’re interested in learning more, please join me for an upcoming day long workshop where we’ll further explore our self image. You’ll learn about different healing practices and how to use them as tools to lead you to a place of healing and reconnection.
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Jake White is a dedicated healing professional who practices Integrative Energetic Medicine in Winchester, Virginia. Since opening his practice in 2013 Jake has been offering private energy healing sessions, group meditations, workshops, and talks. He teaches meditation at Shenandoah University for the Recreational Department and has taught classes on spirituality for the Sociology Department. Jake leads group meditations at Jala Yoga, Capon Springs Resort, and his own meditation group at 611 S. Braddock Street in Winchester.